5 Things To Never Say To Caregivers
What are the hidden costs of caregiving? According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 44 million Americans provide unpaid care for a parent or other adult, and these caregivers report higher levels of stress, depression, heart disease and diabetes than the population at large. Additionally, 57% of caretakers work outside the home, and studies show a majority of those workers take at least some time off, with many reducing hours at work or having to quit altogether in order to provide care for a loved one. With this, below are 5 things to never say to Caregivers
What is said: “Be positive.” Or ‘It could have been worse.”
What Caregivers hear: “It’s no big deal.”
Try Saying: “This has really affected you. I’m here if you want to talk about it.”
What is said: “Make sure you take care of yourself.”
What Caregivers hear: “Here’s one more thing for you to do!”
Try Saying: “You should be able to have some time for yourself. I’d like to come over and visit or make dinner.”
What is said: “How’s he/she doing?
What Caregivers hear: “Now that he/she has had a stroke, they must not be aware of what’s going on.”
Try Saying: “How are both of you?”
What is said: “Well, she looks good!”
What Caregivers hear: “There can’t be that much of a difference right?”
Try Saying: “You’re doing a great job here; it shows!”
What is said: “Have you considered a nursing home?”
What Caregivers hear: “Just move on; it’s a lost cause.”
Try Saying: “Do you need more help? I’d like to support you.”
*Courtesy of the American Heart Association